What do you think???

I think cheating is the worst thing that people can do, but what if the person who was cheating or going to cheat was a good friend? Do we change our thinking...I don't think so, but what do we say to them? Even if they physically haven't cheated with someone but emotionally cheated it is just as bad. Then I pose this question what if you like someone who has a girlfriend or boyfriend but you flirt with them and they flirt with you but continue there relationship what does that say about you? I see this all the time, but recently I have seen an interesting situation that has brought on all these questions. My question to you is where do we draw the line since it seems to get so blurred all time.

My loves

Why?

Tonight my best girl friend and I were sitting and talking about men...whats new? We are both depressed about recent failed relationships and she posed the question- why do we fall in love with men we think we can change?  This I told her is the question ever woman asks herself and goes through in her life. In my relationship it wasn't so much about changing him at all more about molding our lives together. For her she wanted to change him and this NEVER NEVER NEVER works.  I don't care how pretty, smart, or intelligent you are you cannot change someone, they must change for themselves and want the change. I feel like people really want to change for two reasons: they are dying or they are in jail.  I know this seems cynical, but I truly believe that it takes a life changing, growing, and life altering experiences for people to really reevaluate their lives.  I feel so bad for her and the idea of falling for someone who is a terrible person that she felt like could be a brilliant person, but in the end she only feels like a fool and the one who needs to change. Her changing isn't what needs to happen unless trying to help, helpless men becomes a pattern. However, this is why women get to feeling low about themselves because of men who they think they can change, but they can't and then blame themselves.  I hope that my friend look deep inside and knows and learns to love what is there and let someone love her who deserves her; not to mention her finding someone worthy of her that she doesn't feel like she has to change.  I hope this for everyone men and women, even myself.

Moving on I feel an overwhelming sadness for my lose in my relationship. He called me tonight and I feel bad that he is alone and that it is his own fault- kind of like he is my child and I want to baby proof everything for him, but  I can't. I wish I could hug him and know that he will be okay and I will be more able to move on and feel okay- only time will tell how long it will take for me to feel better.

So it is 2012 and I sit here reflecting back  on 2011 and I feel like longest year it was the longest year of my life. 2011 brought so much and took away so much as well. I sit here wondering what the once other S in the double s relationship did when the ball dropped and if he kissed anyone. I know I kissed my sweet kitty and knew that 2012 would be a year of turning points. I found out two weeks ago that I got into law school in Charlotte, NC. I'm excited at the notion of starting over in a new city, but at the same time I am super scared of be alone. I don't know anyone expect for an hour away, but I feel like I have to go and I will be able to start a life that I have always wanted (not that I don't love my life as it is, but I must go live my dream.  I think we all need to buck up and just live the way we feel like we were meant to live. My BF Abaco moved across the country to go live her dream I can go live eight hours away to live mine.  I think this year means living your dream out, hopefully everyone will have a year like that, Abaco's was 2011 mine will be 2012.
I hope that I can move on from my past in 2012 and find the closure I need. I hope everyone has a happy and healthy 2012!